Bullying And Bystanders: The Victim’s Perspective

Let's talk bullying, bystanders and victims.

By Aliyah, London · April 10, 2019


Pic: Pixabay/ Austin Guevara

Why do Bystanders affect the victim more?

Being a bystander to bullying- which means standing by and doing nothing to stop it- is still a choice of action. In fact, it can affect the victim more as they witness this event taking place and in the victim’s eyes choose to do nothing about it. Having people observe but not help can make the victim question many things about themselves.

Why do victims tend not to speak up?

Victims tend not to speak up as they are embarrassed and ashamed of the fact that they are bullied. Other victims may believe others won’t believe them. Many face issues with being worried as being labelled a snitch. Nevertheless, even as children, we’re smart enough to identify our faults. However, when we’re picked on or teased we may feel like we may deserve it. This makes the victim feel insecure as well as demotivated to speak up so the voice they once have becomes mute.

Why do bystanders not try to stop it?

It’s said the larger the crowd, the less likely people are to help someone in distress. The bystander may not stop what they are witnessing for several reasons. They may lack the courage to interfere as the bully may be their friend and may fear the idea of being a loner. They may also be remembering their own past experience of being bullied or mistreated.

How is the victim affected?

Victims of bullying may be affected both physically or mentally. This internal conflict they’re facing can lead to loneliness, depression, anxiety and more. Their sleep patterns and eating patterns can change making them consume more or less. Decreased academic performance can affect their grades in school and can lead to them suffering from poor health problems.  

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